SOMETHING WE SHOULD TEACH EVERY TEENAGER IN THE WORLD!!!!

Misattribution of arousal. What does this mean? Why is it important?  A funny example of this is in the TV series Drop Dead Diva where Deb a model dies and comes back in the plus size lawyer Jane. She has Jane's smarts, but can't remember her life. She ends up meeting Jane's husband who she married so he would have health insurances for his cancer. At first she things that she is still in love with him because she feels hot and her heart starts to flutter and it gets hard to breath. After a while she realizes that Jane was actually angry not in love. This is the problem, the symptoms we attribute to love are linked to adrenalin. This is the answer of why your friend would date that jerk you know is cheating on them and is no good. Guys have learned this subconsciously/ culturally; if you take a girl to a scary movie she'll like you more. That if you are kissing someone that they feel like  you really have a relationship. I know I want to teach my teenagers to keep their hands and lips off of other  people if they really want a relationship. The is so much in the media that says it is about that arousal that this is love, but it isn't always. A study done by Meston and Frohlich in 2003 showed that people who got off a roller coaster. It was shown that those who were questioned after the ride rather than before the ride were much more likely to say they were more attractive and desirable date. Other studies have repeated these findings. On study had women rate the attactiveness of 10 men , watch 20 minuets of war footage and then rate the same men again. IN ALL CASES THEY RATED THE SAME MEN MORE ATTRACTIVE THEN BEFORE THEY WATCH THE WAR FOOTAGE. Does this stick out to anyone else like it does to me? Because when we are "in love" this usually causes an adrenaline rush so we think of it in that way, but being afraid or angry can cause the same actions. Perhaps this is why you have good people both male and female who date jerks thinking they are in love when they really aren't. So when you talk to your children about what good relationships are don't just say it is true love and happily ever after. Explain the needs of what a relationship needs. About how it takes work. How you need to knew someone before you give your trust and commitment and that just physical responses aren't enough to keep a relationship together.