If life was easy it wouldn't be hard

There is a new myth that is flying through the cosmos, that life can be easy. We don't have to put effort in to get something out. THIS IS WRONG. So many movies show that relationships just end up working out. You take someone home, get physical, get to know each other and  then  after a few years get married. This is the formula for a long term relationship and happy marriage. THIS IS WRONG. There have been many studies done on cohabitation and how it is detrimental to a relationship because instead of meshing all of your life together you have parallel lives that are very close together. It is his and hers instead of ours. Though a couple can change this with a lot of work it would be so much easier just to start off on the right foot. Some people are confused in thinking that  a relationship is like flying a kit, you get it up and going and then direct it to the best places the the best flight and that the wind (or things around you) will make it work or not. THIS IS WRONG. Starting a relationship is like shooting a cannon, however you start is how you are going to end up unless something drastic hits it off this course. This is the reason that we start out with dating without having our lips on each other so we just get to know the person.

 The Relationship attachment model was developed to help explain how a relationship should be made. In the world we have this idea that we see if we have good sex and then everything else will follow. Though good sex is a symptom of a good marriage it is not the reason the marriage is good. It you don't know someone you don't understand what they are doing so it is hard to trust them. If you don't trust some one it is hart to rely on them. If you can't rely on someone it is hard to commit to them. When you do things in the proper order physical intimacy inhances your relationship. If you get started on the wrong foot then it hinders your relationship. This is just how I feel and this is some of the patterns that are emerging in society today which show the decay of the family. The more I learn the more I realize that family is the most important accomplishment we can have.