The Anatomy of peace : resolving the heart of conflict (the Arbinger institute)

For my parenting class I am reading The Anatomy of Peace. I was expecting it to be a chapter by chapter look into different subjects which help in creating peace. It is actually told in a story about parents dropping off their troubled kids for a program to promote positive change in the kids, but is really addressing how the parents need to change as well for anything to be long lasting. I like the book thus far and would read more of it now if I didn't have so much school work to do. I'll edit this blog until I have reached the end. For right now the thing I have pulled from it is that we should be focusing on what is going wrong when trying to help people or make an environment of peace, but focusing on helping things go right. That means not criticizing and correcting all the time. Instead finding ways to promote positivism. 

picture from the book 

So I have decided that I am not going to go all the way into what I learned in this book. I enjoyed discovering it too much to spoil it for someone else. However I highly recommend it as it has helped me realize that it is common to fall into negative self defeating thinking/behaviors, but if you are aware of how it happens and how to get away from it you will have a heart of peace, not of war.