Advice for the future

Brenna M. Hicks is a child therapist who blogs about common mistakes that parents make and explains children's behavior. Her article 10 things not to say to your kids makes complete sense, but unless you read it they are things you don't really think about. I am not a mom yet, but I became a co-parent with my other two sisters after my mom died for our three youngest so I have had experience. I think the thing that I used to do which I can tell never worked was the wait until dad gets home (#4). It took sometimes, but we (me and my sisters) stopped that when we realized it didn't work and made the less responsive. Brenna explains that because it is a threat and making the children fearful you are breaking trust. It is better to ask it they wanted to tell by themselves or if they wanted to do it together. So they don't escape the consequences, but can still trust you and you show that you respect the. 

So my dad is getting divorced

I wrote the last entry a while ago and that was then that I was at my most hopeful that things would work out. But sometimes these things just don't work out. I a little resistant to the idea that they should get divorced, but I came to a conclusion: They aren't good for each other any more. They weren't helping each other grow. They were holding each other back. I wish the best for RaLyn, but it just isn't with my dad. It is a funny positively neutral feeling tied all together closure and...I guess the word is peace or ease...no something between that.